It’s Not People-Pleasing! It’s Patriarchy.

The REAL reason for all your yeses and no’s.

Quick quiz! Why do you say “yes” so much? Which answer in the picture above is the most accurate for you? A, B,C, D, or E?

The answer you choose tells me a lot about you. But those things may not be what you think. While there are no wrong answers to this question (only your beliefs about your own actions), there is a most accurate answer. An answer that is actually true for all of us. But before we get there, what answer did you choose?

Did you choose “d: all of the above”? This is the choice that most women respond with. If you did, too, you are in very good company. And “d” is not the most accurate answer. The most accurate answer is actually “e: none of the above”. None of the above.

Before I get into why, I want you to imagine “yes” as a lasagna. That’s right, a lasagna. Can you picture it? A “yes” is a lasagna.

When’s the last time you made a lasagna? I made one a few weeks back and they are no joke! At minimum, you need lasagna noodles, tomato sauce, and a cheese mix (mozzarella, parmesan, ricotta etc). But tomato sauce is made up of other ingredients: tomatoes, olive oil, tomato paste, onion, etc. There’s a few ingredients in the cheese blend too. Lasagna noodles, too, are not single ingredient; they’re made with…